Being in a long-term relationship has its perks, but honestly, it has its downsides, too. It’s great to have such close intimacy with someone that even peeing with the door open is OK, but sometimes, things can get a little too comfortable. Before you know it, you can find yourself having the obligatory once-a-week sex, in missionary position only, just before you both roll over and go to sleep.
I’m the first to admit that keeping the passion alive in the bedroomisn’t exactly easy. Admittedly, as much as I love my partner and love having sex with him, sometimes, I’d just rather eat pizza and watch My So-Called Life for the millionth time. Which is totally fine, of course, but as we all know, sex is important in a relationship. It’s not just good for keeping that bond intact, but there are also physical and mental health benefits from getting it on regularly.
If you’re in a long term relationship and feel things are getting a bit stagnant — or even if you aren’t but would just like to mix it up even more — then here are some tips you may want to work into your usual repertoire of sexual activities. They’re all really fun, and all of them have helped us keep it fresh.
1. Have Morning Sex At Least Once A Week
It has actually been scientifically proven that morning sex is great for you. Between being less self-conscious and the fact that your partner is already right there, it’s a great way to start the day. I love starting my day with an orgasm and watching my partner grin all morning for the same reason.
2. Don’t Be Afraid To Surprise Your Partner
Even those people who are adamant about not liking surprises enjoy surprises when it comes to sex.
I love to welcome my partner home with a sex-related surprise. Whether I tell him not to say a word as I pull his clothes from his body, or greet him with nothing but a sly grin, it’s fun for both of us. The key here is not to do it too often. Surprises are meant for special occasions.
3. Take An Evening To Share Your Ultimate Fantasies
Once you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, you’ve tackled the awkward stuff and can truly open up — especially when it comes to sharing your fantasies. My partner and I are really open about what turns us on and accepting of what the other wants. We try to fulfill these desires or, at the very least, find a common ground. We’ve also learned that some fantasies can’t be fulfilled, and that that’s OK, too.
Set a specific night aside to discuss your fantasies. Chances are, even if you don’t think you have any, you’ll discover something after talking for awhile.